Checking the Ugly Backgrounds of Single, Divorced, and Delusional “Strong and Independent” Women

Checking the Ugly Backgrounds of Single, Divorced, and Delusional “Strong and Independent” Women

A Long Line of Bitter Women

This will hurt. 

Six words you’ll never hear from a man are: ”I am a strong, independent man.”

The envy women carry for men exists.  They try everything to compete with men, using wacky feminine ideals about what makes a man a real man. 

You’ll never hear these words from a man because a man has no choice but to be strong and independent. No one is coming to save him. There won’t be multiple rescue attempts made on his behalf. No one is going to swoop in, pay all his bills, and take care of his illegitimate children.

With this in mind, a man must accept the truth: he is the prize in a relationship. He is a gift to a woman as he comes in ready to shoulder her burden on top of his. The rules for finding a woman for a lifetime commitment have changed. Men who know their value must investigate the real story behind the women standing before them.

Does she come from a long line of single mothers, aunts, and cousins? My ex-wife fit this mold to a Tee. She was one of five sisters. 

My fiancee and I eloped in 1996. Two of her older sisters were already married and one was engaged. I could see those marriages weren’t ideal. There was constant verbal sparring and small signs of disrespect. But as for me, I felt lucky. My woman was fine., In fact, all of her sisters were good-looking. I knew my children were going to be something special.

When my wife and I split up after 11 years, her sisters had already either separated or gotten divorced. And I got understood why.

They all had that same “I’m a strong, independent black woman” thing going on. The women had their quintessential matriarchal-influenced attitude. They had become a dysfunctional group of commiserating harpies if I ever met them. 

Individually they held a place among the nicest, sweetest and most caring people I’d ever met. But this was only when I dealt with them one-on-one. But if you have a long line of single mothers, divorcees, aunts, and cousins, you have generational curses, and other problems within that family. 

Problems will rear their heads sooner or later. These problems will likely trickle down to children and their relationships.

And the point is men of value shouldn’t want to be around either way. Don't even let yourself get sucked in. Ask questions that give you insight into a woman’s characer, and figure out what her family life is like. Dive into her family history. 

And if you’re a healthy man under thirty, stay away for single mothers.

Don’t get caught in the puppy love trap. It’s not about butterflies in your stomach. Passion ebbs and flows. You're interviewing her for a lifetime position inside the corporation of You. You're the CEO. She’s the COO. Can you guys work and build together with the same singular vision?

Ask yourself: Would you bring in somebody who embezzles from the company, sells your secrets, and leaves you in bankruptcy?